Red flags for dating violence
Pay attention to the direction your partner’s anger is directed. Are you expected to absorb the negativity, even if you had nothing to do with the situation?
Are you often blamed for your partner’s horrible mood?
Fact: This is a non-negotiable component of a strong partnership.
If your partner seems as if they’re up to no good, they very well might be.
Some of the earliest red flags of an abusive relationship begin with seemingly harmless questions.
If your partner’s gentle “how was your day” turns to much more invasive questions like “who were you with” or “what time did you go to the store/what time did you leave the store,” they may be exhibiting overly-possessive behaviors.
Many victims first encounter sexual violence before their 18th birthday.
Findings from the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey show that sexual violence is common in both male and female youth, and usually is committed by someone the victim knows.
If your partner’s interest in your day-to-day activities seems a little much, it may be cause for concern.
Does your body ever register fear when your partner erupts? Bring the issue to light through calm, assertive conversations when you’re both in a good mood and see if the issue can be remedied.
If you are answering ‘yes’ to any of these questions, you may need to take a step back from the situation to observe your partner’s patterns. If you discover it can not, removing yourself from the relationship may be the best thing for your mental and spiritual well-being, as well as your physical safety.
The campaign encourages friends and other campus community members to say something when they see warning signs ("red flags") for sexual assault, dating violence, or stalking in a friend’s relationship.
The Campaign is a project of the Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action Alliance, and was created by college students, college personnel, and community victim advocates.
Intimate partner violence and sexual violence are both serious and significant public health problems, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.