My daughter is dating an atheist
When I was in my early 20's I met the most amazingly kind man. Years later after a marriage and divorce on my part, he and I fell into each others arms. What has made our relationship work is that he will support me in church work.He dislikes church extremely, but he says he understands it is good for me.“It’s ’cause we don’t go to church,” my daughter admitted.“Her mom says she’s not allowed to talk to me, but she does anyway when the teacher isn’t looking.” Later I got the whole story. Or she was once, which is why my kid felt comfortable enough to tell her what she usually keeps to herself: We’re atheists. Then she wouldn’t leave her alone, and her taunts escalated.Extremely happy to say that she is still my good friend though.:)Yeah I agree that the possibility of these relationships working aren't nil, but just are going to need a radical positional change from one/both parties. Even before we got together I admired some of the things her church was doing in the community and might see if I can join in. I would say something about having love and lost but it seems so cliche, I guess instead I'll just say I hope you rebound from this and find someone who loves you for you and can accept you for who you are.She is supportive of my religious activities, she just doesn't participate in them (other than church-related social/fundraising events).On my part, I am a church-going Christian, but I am progressive, post-modernist, syncretic, and really more pantheist than theist.
In my community, friends, and family it is normal for people of all faiths or lack thereof to coexist and commingle, from fundamentalist Christians, progressive Christians, Jews, Buddhists, atheists, and so on.I knew exactly what my child would catch hell for, if you’ll excuse the terrible pun.Yet anticipating what was coming didn’t make it any easier to overhear her conversation with a soccer teammate after practice one day when my 10-year-old locked her eyes with her cleats and mumbled about a little girl in class who hated her.There was her first trip to the orthodontist and her first miserable meal of soup after the braces went on.She got her first pimple, went on her first solo bike trip to a friend’s house and fell hard for her first crush (a boy with a British accent — can you blame her? She was a preadolescent pioneer, hacking her way through the thick underbrush of awkward changes to discover the really cool stuff: tight friendships and a knack for the guitar.
For example if he is sick, I will ask him if I can pray. He doesn't make fun of me for praying over the car before driving through a metropolitan area either. Better than my experience with this one atheist chick. I'm a Christian that fell in love with a girl that was an atheist and was/is my best friend.