Dating a 34 year old virgin
When things got hot and heavy later, (fooling around in my car etc. And losing your virginity is 100x less important/life-changing than you think it is. : P I'm trying not to expect it to be life-changing. It might be because I lost weight gradually over a longer period of time bu changing diet and excercising vs dropping like a stone which happens when people do something immediate like gastric bypass. He's just beginning to date, using lame pickup lines like a sleaze bag is not going to be helpful.
just foreplay), it helps if the girls are communicative. Foreplay wasn't too hard for me, and it's great to have the feeling that you can make a woman orgasm with it. As for losing actual virginity, I told the girl I was seeing at the time on our second date that I was a virgin (again, after dropping the hints etc) while we were screwing around. I just want to have a little experience so I don't get extremely nervous when things start to go in that direction and I don't know what to do or how to behave.
I think that a lot of women on the dating sites simply don't want to put in the time and effort of getting to know each other first, only to realize there is not "spark" or "chemistry" on the first date.
I completely changed my diet, I signed up for an intense gym program, started learning how to dress myself, etc..Shoot them a quick message, try to be funny or just a little sarcastic (a little! With a little luck, you'll meet a great girl to date, or possibly even better, a good friend. :) I usually send out 3-4 messages per day (on average) and move on. You have some years on me, true, it took me a little less time to drop the weight (500 to 250 lbs from 22 to 25), but that doesn't really matter.Learning to develop a platonic friendship with a female will help you learn to socialize quickly. I actually got a few first dates, only one of which ended with a horribly awkward kiss (but hey, kissed a girl - I call this progress) and no second dates but I'm trying not to let that discourage me. Most women won't care that much if you bring it up after a couple dates.This combined with being a sheltered, naive and trustworthy put me on the radar of just about every bully in the 50 mile radius.High school was an absolute hell - I was a social leper and it was the worst 4 years of my life. I actually made some friends, gained some confidence back and etc.
And yes, it was likely the most awkward and inept kiss that poor girl has ever experienced, and of course she never messaged me back. Each date is slightly less nerve-wrecking and embarrassing than the last one. : PThe women in my age bracket (late 20's, early 30's) don't really expect a guy to be as inexperienced as I am. I feel that I would be much more confident and successful at relationships if I didn't constantly feel anxious about being so inexperienced.